2021.10.18 06:38 itsnotTozzit my flag is a mother and wont let me put my wardrobe on it
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2021.10.18 06:38 DTLAlivin Finally got this spot in Big Sur. It didn’t disappoint.
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2021.10.18 06:38 Charming_Number_7945 Revenge Affair?
I (F43) have an extremely close male friend who became a widower last December. I was also very close with his late wife. It has NEVER been romantic.
After the wife's fatal car accident last Christmas Eve (in which his son was paralyzed), I was very active, long distance, in doing everything I could to help the family. Checked in on him every day, donated a few thousand to the GoFundMe, hired a chef friend to make a weeks worth of throw in the oven type meals....we became even tighter than we were before.
When WS's (M42) affair was revealed 6 weeks ago, said friend was my male go-to for advice.
He's now about two hours away on vacay, and I have plans to go meet him to catch up and just kinda cry with one another about our pain.
My WS knows that I'm going to see him, but I've purposely distorted the context a bit. He's under the impression that it's gonna be more of a group thing. Tonight, he wanted to discuss how I would handle being away without being able to keep close tabs on him. It hasn't even crossed his mind that I might be a lying, cheating whore as well. God, I would kill to have that kind of trust back.
Friend and I are both lonely, sad, in need of comfort. Based on texts, I think he might be starting to catch feelings, and tbh aside from the distance, a relationship between us would make sense.
I'm thinking about a revenge affair. I wanna be on a level playing field again. I'm thinking about ditching my asshole cheating partner and rebounding with someone safe. I also know I'm not the only BS to have these thoughts and REALLY need to hear some perspective from those who have been there, or are at least far enough out of the fog to give me some solid things to think about before I reach a point of no return. OR...has anyone had a revenge affair and it helped?
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2021.10.18 06:38 bot_neen Memo Muñoz, histórico de Rayados, es un 'Turbo' bien bailarín
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2021.10.18 06:38 ProfaneVoid Picked up Legion, saw a new addon in the bloodweb, and had a laugh.
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2021.10.18 06:38 Reyntoons Robert Pattinson's Batman One Year Ago
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2021.10.18 06:38 FemboyWeeb Technosexual
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2021.10.18 06:38 CherryBlossom724 [TTM] Chrysanthemums
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2021.10.18 06:38 Glum_Artist_2190 I am I going to grow up to be a failure?
This is probably going to be kind of a lot of needed information to understand my scenario, so… prepare yourself. I am an 18 year old male and I am currently in my first year of college. I have a girlfriend that I met about a year and a half ago and we have been loving every moment of being together. This is my first relationship and her second and we pretty much never leave each other’s side (I’ll get to that later). Now about college, I never actually wanted to go to college. I hated all of high school and always told my parents that I did not want to go to college, as which they did not agree with (especially my mom). I was forced to go anyways. Now, I am stuck in college doing what I hate, learning nothing, and making no progress towards my hopes and dreams. I am failing out of college. My excuse: I’m just not interested. You can’t force someone to do something they have made clear that they don’t want to do and then expect them to try to excel in it (what I believe at least). I hate college. I don’t want to do it anymore. Now, to me and my girlfriend, we spend pretty much every moment possible with each other. We wake up, and see each other. We then follow each other around and go about our days, just with each other. We make everything fit in, as long as we are together. Me and her want to have a future with each other. We want to buy a van and travel the country in it for a few years (cliche, I know) and then we want to settle down and have kids and follow our dreams (I want to be a auto mechanic, she wants to be a teacher). At the moment we are currently working to afford a van while trying to balance the rest of the things in our life.
Now here’s the problem. My mom doesn’t approve of my goals in life. We just had an hour long talk with me basically telling me how I am a failure and if I drop out of college then she will cut off all support towards me. No more living in her house, no more car insurance, and no more car (we are currently looking at buying me a car because my old one caught on fire… long story). During this conversation, I began to doubt my girlfriends and my plans for the future. Is this all going to work out? Should I force myself to continue on through college just so that I continue to receive support from my mother? I am so lost and so confused right now to the point where I have decided to ask random strangers on the internet what they think about my situation.
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2021.10.18 06:38 Guacamayo-18 What is going on with Edward Gibbon?
Started the Decline and Fall because I heard good things about Gibbon’s style and thought (I’m not reading it to learn Roman history) and every other sentence I catch myself wondering why Gibbon isn’t interrogating his sources, how he doesn’t notice that the dichotomy of Western independence, martial bravery and “love of freedom” vs. “Oriental despotism” etc breaks down once he actually describes Roman culture (which he explicitly condemns for losing those virtues!), and generally where all the critical analysis I expect from contemporary historians is.
What’s going on here? Is the whole idea of critical thinking a 20th-century value, or were the tropes Gibbon plays into already so ingrained in Enlightenment elite thought that he can’t see beyond them? I realize I have a very modern idea of what the study of history is for, but I kept hearing that Gibbon was unusual precisely because he pushed back on previous narratives, and while I’m not familiar with 17th and 18th century views on Rome in any detail it’s hard to imagine Gibbon as revolutionary.
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2021.10.18 06:38 DissonantKitty BF with BPD is ghosting again. Im not going to give up and lose to a lie. I have a plan, feedback!
I am a 32F dating a 32M for about 4 months now. He has been diagnosed with BPD and inside it known early on. I shared that I struggle with a lot of similar problems, having ADHD, depression, and anxiety, all of which are moderately severe. There's trauma and dysfunction in both of our paths. Don't come at me, I'm just giving context.
Wehave touched on the subject a bit, feeling like everyone will eventually leave, how emotional we get, how we feel about people, and some of our needs. But only superficially, so I only have clues.
ive been told I am too much by a lot of people. Ridiculous, extreme, and even my parents have implied they can barely stand me. My fear that I am a burden is well-founded. Even a healthy mind would waver with that much evidence.. I had fucked up childhood followed by a 13 year relationship with a narcissist. I didn't hide that I had more issues than a comic shop.
I could tell immediately that it was going to be challenging with him. We've had quite a few misunderstandings, although I don't feel like we've really had a fight. Maybe a single near-fight.
The one major symptom imI saw quickly and frequently is his ghosting. He gets very reactive and has what I call "half-dumoed me" more than a half a dozen times in our few months. This behavior triggered me to start feeling insecure and awkward. Afraid to speak and be myself.
I spiraled one night and asked if I could ask him stuff. I wanted to counter how I was feeling by asking for him to explain. Despite having done research since we started dating, I went about it all wrong. I think I overwhelmed him for one. He probably also felt attacked. I tried to be cautious in my wording, to say he hadnt done anything or that I wasn't complaining. But good intentions don't guarantee good outcomes. He almost immediately said "I don't want to do this. Go fuck yourself" and blocked me.
Initially, I was mad. I wasn't horrible, but I was not giving him my best. It appears that he hasn't seen anything. I've deleted the rest. I'll admit to having said a bunch of stuff out of anger. I did and I will own it. But it's been almost a full week. I have to act.
I told him that Im not going to just give up because it isn't easy. I never thought it would be. He is an amazing person who is strong from struggling. I wouldn't want a S/O that didn't have a mental illness at some point. Such a person could never understand what its like to be afraid of your own mind. As such, I want to always make it known that it is not a burden to be with him. It's a challenge, but I choose it gladly.
Also, no, I don't want to "fix" him. He isn't broken. I do hope that I will be a good thing for him for the time that we spend together, I want to leave an impression that will leave him encouraged and hopeful. I would like to help him find a way to be a little happier. I want to positively impact his life. Not by controlling things, but by being willing to try things. By persevering myself. I have lots of ideas to try if he's willing at some point.
It's been almost a week, the longest yet. I don't know if he blocked me before, I thought he was just ignoring me. But I usually don't call, and this time I did. I was a bit hysterical due to being in a personal crisis. Initially, I was upset that he wasn't being there for me in that moment.
Since then, I've realized that it gets a whole lot worse. Whatever it was, it was unimportant. It's way worse now. I miss and need him if that's an option. Not for any reason, I just want to feel the comfort of his presence and quit ruminating on the uncertainty. I also realized that I was not considering the effects of his bpd when I was doing this. That's on me, and I want to know if he is in or out of this relationship.
I know it would be ideal to wait. Or maybe. But I can't wait around this time. Like I said, I am going through a very dark time. I can't handle the uncertainty of this too. He isn't responsible for my problems or happiness of course, but he was my reprieve from the rest of the world. I want to save it.
He also mentioned briefly that he knows he pushes people away, but that a part of him wants them to fight for him. I'm scared to look like a fool, but I think this is the answer I need. To show him that you can't ghost someone who kniws where you live and work. That I won't roll over and let it be that easy when I know where to go if I can't reach him by phone. Especially since I'm super shy, like won't grab a water without asking shy. Would it be okay, then, to try and see him? I have written a letter. I don't want to be intrusive, but Iwant him to know I meant what I said. He isn't too much, I won't just leave, and he's worth the effort just to be with him now.
I don't want to be too pushy, but I can't wait forever. I thought I would lay out how I felt and ask him to respond within a few days. For now I want him to talk to me, see me, and hopefully tell me if he wants to pursue this or not. The rest can wait. We don't have to jump back in. First I want us to spend some time together and let that inform us. I don't want to wait too long and lose him for good.
I will respect his space if that's what he wants, but I need clarity and closure. If he says with his words that he doesn't want to be in this relationship, I will wish him well. But vague statements won't cut it. To me, those are halfhearted and probably the dysfunctional thinking. I'm not going to let the thoughts win, but I expect to sense his effort too. Eventually I hope that we will have managed both of our issues to some extent.
With mutual effort, we can learn to meet each other's needs and avoid their triggers. Good things take effort. Relationships require work. And perspective changes everything. he is very high-strung and stressed by everything, which is ironic because so an I, but in a different way. I want to demonstrate for him that happiness is more present when we seek it out. I cant do anything, but I can live a life that is more happy than it is difficult. I can share my gratitude's and express appreciation for the little things. I do this anyways, if it's helpful for him then it's a welcome bonus.
Does anyone have any thoughts? Do you think I am on to something about him wanted to be shown his value? I know that bpd can distort what people are saying, and I see how what I said can be construed I think, but I am fairly sure that, even at the most extreme end of the interpretation, I don't think I said anything that would be unforgivable. I was careful but in the wrong manner. And I'm only apologizing and owning what I believe was my error, I am only responsible for my role in this. That and the fact that I miss him and that my feelings are unchanged.
We are both "out of sight out of mind." For me that does not include people, but I think for him it does. I don't want to wait too long. I don't want to give him too much time. I think being together, especially touching, would help us both remember. I had been sick a lot and so we saw each other very little in the weeks before the ghosting.
He does have work to do too. I have some boundaries that I need to lay out soon. He isn't obligated, but I want to figure out the right way to introduce this information because I know he cares and has the desire to try as well. A little at a time, I think. It just takes time, and I just get the feeling that he is special somehow. Don't get me wrong, he can be a jerk. It's less about what how a person is and more about how much a person is willing to consider your feelings. Change done willingly and of one's own volition is the only kind that stocks. To be clear, I believe in loving him as he is, but I would be lying if I denied that I wanted him to grow and overcome some things himself. I try to never push for it though. . I welcome your advice! Heads up though that I will ask questions if it differs from my intuition. Not to be argumentative, I just want to make sure it's all clear and everything's been considered.
I want to be with him. But I need an answer soonish because Im in a challenging place and need to know if I can take comfort in spending time with him- no pressures or obligations (except some hanky-panky 😂). Maybe vent a little. I've always let him choose the pace. His feelings are my priority most of the time. But as things are, I ruminate on him too much. If I force myself to detach so that I can think, I don't know that I will ever be able to connect as deeply and fully with him as I do now. That feels like giving up, not giving it my all.
I want to try thoroughly. Make sure that he was absolutely aware I was reaching out to him and really tried. Make sure there was no chance he missed it. I will never ever turn anyone away just to do so, he can reach out when he is ready, but I can only save the romantic part for a short time. I want him to be aware but not pressured or bullied
I'm desperate! Please advise
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2021.10.18 06:38 Away_Emu4980 A cockpit I made for my German Valkyrie Bomber
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2021.10.18 06:38 SuperJackson20 Old Top Gear- BMW E39 review with Jeremy Clarkson (1996)
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2021.10.18 06:38 SRTARKadia [PC Server] The Last ARK | PVP/ORP | No-Wipe | 11 Maps | 7 Man Tribes | Helpful Community
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2021.10.18 06:37 katka8simkova Is there a good wallpaper of Tomoe on wallpaper machine?
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2021.10.18 06:37 Kkfootfantasy What would you rate these oily soles?
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2021.10.18 06:37 mxcnslr2021 Apes, I think I figured out why Kenny is so fucking evil and corrupt.......
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2021.10.18 06:37 reddituserhere6 Stocks to Trade today based on Open=High & Open=Low Strategy
Possible Shorts for the day based on Open=High Strategy:
Possible Longs for the day based on Open=Low Strategy:
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2021.10.18 06:37 nazasantander Tongues Untied (1989)
Hello! I've been looking for this for months and still can't find it. It was directed by Marlon Riggs. If you know where i can watch it please help me! Thank you very much.
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2021.10.18 06:37 daboss6595 Bro this movie really expects me to believe that was a fucking sex scene
2021.10.18 06:37 OlympianVictim 19M I just moved into my own house [friendship]
So like I just moved to Texas and I know 0 people here I used to live in Ohio but now Im here and I need to mmet more people I need friends I play games and have other hobbies but rn I'm justba bit stressed and if you message me we will get to know each other a bit better
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2021.10.18 06:37 iamflowting Commenter believes 'predicting the upset' improves odds of a perfect pickems
R4: Predicting the favored team for each matchup will always provide the highest probability of getting every prediction correct. Trying to predict an upset occurring in any specific matchup will always reduce those odds.
Apologies for the really shoddy explanation, I hope its sufficient. Happy to edit if theres a better one
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